authoritarian husbands

hannielebed Mon 21 Mar 2011, 5:48 am

I'm writing a fiction story to teach Biblical principles about handling authoritarians and I just want to make sure I'm getting this correct so that I teach truth and not error. So, hypothetically speaking, let's say there is a husband who is dominating his wife too much. He's not physically abusive. He's just bossy. If he was physically abusive, we'd want to protect the wife from him. But for the purposes of this story, these are my questions:

At what point would we consider it best to remove the wife for her protection? How do we discern that a husband has crossed the line into abusive territory?

If the husband has not crossed the line, if we are able to intercede before it gets to that point, how should the marriage be handled?

**Waqar Daniel** Tue 22 Mar 2011, 6:08 pm

hannielebed wrote:At what point would we consider it best to remove the wife for her protection? How do we discern that a husband has crossed the line into abusive territory?

I can only give you a yardstick and that is according to the Bible, anything against this yardstick would be considered hostile.

"Love your wife as Christ loved the Church."(Ephesians 5:25)
"Love your wife in the same way you love your body and your life."(Ephesians 5:28-33)
"Be considerate as you live with your wife, with respect ..."(I Peter 3:7)
"Do not be harsh with your wife."(Colossians 3:19)
"The husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife."(I Corinthians 7:3-5)
"Rejoice in your wife all your life. Let her breasts satisfy you. Be captivated with her."(Proverbs 5:18-19)
"Do not be captivated by other women."(Proverbs 5:20)
"Call your wife 'blessed' and praise her."(Proverbs 31:28-29)
"Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body."(Song of Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8)
"Honor your marriage; keep it pure by remaining true to your wife in every way."(Hebrews 13:4)
"Be thankful for your wife and realize the favor you have received from God."(Proverbs 18:22)
"Be one flesh with your wife in every way."(Matthew 19:5)

I hope this works for your fiction.

hannielebed Tue 22 Mar 2011, 6:20 pm

Thank you for those verses. That did help.

So say that you know a man who is a good Christian in every way, kind and gentle with strangers, but you see signs of him not loving his wife in the way that those Bible verses describe. What would you say to him? How would you intervene? Let's say he comes home and expects dinner to be ready for him to eat the moment he gets home but as soon as he's done eating, he sits and watches television or leaves his wife to go pursue some hobby of his. Other than quoting scripture at him, what would be some important things to consider? Prayer would probably be an obvious thing to consider but what else?

**Waqar Daniel** Tue 22 Mar 2011, 7:00 pm

Somebody asked a question to me that how can he remove the difference that have popped up between his wife and him so I quoted the following verses and they helped him to change.

"Call your wife 'blessed' and praise her."(Proverbs 31:28-29)

The most important thing of all is

"Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body."(Song of Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8)

Now attitudes do not change overnight and they take time. As I normally say, "To make a change you have to lead a change". It is just like being a role model for the other.

If a husband wants to watch TV or wants to pursue his hobby - can't wife become a part of that? I don't see any problems here. Like I take interest in hobbies of my colleagues and this helps me to lead my team with love and care. I always lead them by becoming one with them and I do not feel being left out.

Sorry I am not married yet I have saved many married lives from being destroyed through verses of the Bible and yes prayer changes everything.

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